November 12th, 2010
"Shawn & Haley" by Lite Speed Photography
When a hot girl enters the room, hold off on changing your body language. This could let her know your interested, anxious or uncomfortable in her presence and give her the upper hand. Instead, ignore her at first. Don’t look at her or let her know that you know she’s there, initially.
An attractive woman is used to getting ego boosts from men that gawk at her and these are not the men she wants to be with. These are men of lower social value because they’re just like every other clueless guy (they fawn over her and act in a way that says they see something they know they can never have). Since it’s human nature to want what you can’t have, acting like she doesn’t even exist is going to confuse her, because this is something she’s not used to. This will make her become interested in you, even if subconsciously. She may even engage you to see if she can get you to act like you noticed her or to get you to pour over her to boost her ego and quell her insecurities (i.e. that you may not be under her spell like most men). But there are some caveats that come along with this advanced piece of advice. Read more »
November 1st, 2010
"if you listen carefully...." by lysander 07
Although this is primarily a dating advice website for men seeking to become learned masters of the pickup artist (PUA) community, I had promised in my first post (Hello World!) to bring you more than most pickup artist sites. I promised you a fuller, richer experience. We have the PUA seduction lessons as well, so don’t worry, but a man needs to be truly well-rounded and in good health to achieve strong inner-game so he can step out his front door and unleash his smoothly calibrated seduction skills on the single (and sometimes taken!) women at large.
If you haven’t heard of it before, SAD (a.k.a. Seasonal Affective Dissorder) afflicts many individuals by causing some degree of depression, or winter blues, during the winter months. It is a mood disorder which is believed to be related to light and therefore its symptoms typically correlate with the lower number of sunlit hours in the days following the June 21st Summer Solstice (in the Northern Hemisphere) and persists until the spring, many weeks after the December 21st Winter Solstice (in the Northern Hemisphere), when the days finally begin getting longer again. However, there are a number of things you can do to alleviate some of the symptoms of SAD. Read more »
October 29th, 2010
There are more beautiful women in this world than you'll ever have the chance to meet.
Abundance Mentality is a term that means a person believes there are enough resources and success to share with others. The term was coined in a 1989 self-help book entitled The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey. This abundance mentality is counter to what people commonly default to, which is the theory that there is a lack of everything. This scarcity mentality can produce a lot of fear, anxiety and desperation.
If you can reprogram your way of thinking into an abundance mentality (that there is plenty of what you want, you just simply have to take it) then you can rid yourself of much unwanted angst. So how do you create an abundance mentality? Read more »
October 28th, 2010
"The Couple" by RedMorris
There were a couple of interesting facts in a recent YourTango article entitled, “5 Fascinating Sex Facts From Largest Sex Survey“. The article is based on The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, which was conducted by researchers at The Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, who polled 5,865 people aged 14-94.
YourTango is a total chick dating-advice site, so I cut the fat to only the most lean morsels. Here’s what’s up (according to the NSSHB’s findings): Read more »
October 26th, 2010
"Lark Tavern before the Fire - Albany, NY - 10, May - 07" by sebastien.b
Men compartmentalize their interactions with women into two categories: (1) basic necessity or utility, and (2) sexual necessity.
Basic Necessity / Utility: Men speak to women under the category of basic necessity/utility 90-95% of the time because they need something like food, clothing, shelter or entertainment and the interaction flows relatively smoothly because it’s transactional. This is when you order your morning coffee from the girl at the deli, ask a woman on the street what time it is, chat with a female cohort about the weather, or even when you say, “excuse me,” to a woman when getting out of the elevator.
Sexual Necessity: Men, however, only attempt to converse with a woman in an attempt to advance things sexually 5-10% of the time, which makes this kind of conversation extremely anxiety-producing and/or poorly executed.
So what’s a guy to do? Read more »
October 24th, 2010
"Halloween 09 @ Living Room Nightclub" by Nenortas Photography
It’s that time of year again! The time when female cops are actually attractive and having sex with a girl in a school uniform won’t land you in jail. That’s right, it’s Halloween! Which means women everywhere will be dressing up in sexy costumes on the one night of the year where they have a free pass to wear as little as they want without risk of social retribution.
Which costumes do women look particularly good in? Pretty much anything scant that emphasizes a woman’s boner-inducing features. But what about guys? What kind of costume can they wear that will drive a woman crazy? Read more »
October 21st, 2010
"An Orange Juice Gaze" by Treefiddy
There was a pretty good article on Yahoo! the other day that entitled “10 café pickup tricks” which listed 10 great ways to open someone at a café. While the article is geared toward women, I think men looking to meet women could benefit very much from the article. This article is great because all the suggestions are simple yet common sense. Men often overcomplicate things and come up with excuses to avoid opening women even though it could be as simple as “What’s good here?” or “This place is kind of crowded, mind if I sit here?” (This line is also a great bold opener if there is no one else in the place. One of my friend’s did this at a pizza parlor after the bars had closed and he quickly number closed!) I really found just about all 10 of the suggestions to be good ideas and think you will too.
Added Bonus: Looks like Starbucks is going to be adding beer and wine to its menu. With such socially lubricating libations coming to Starbucks it’s a more attractive environment for meeting women than ever before. Nothing screams “Talk to me! Ask me out!” more than a woman by herself with a glass of cabernet and a good book. So stop reading this post and go talk to her already!
October 20th, 2010
A severe case of approach anxiety.
First, what is approach anxiety exactly? Well, according to Magnus of InnerGameTapping.com, it’s your subconscious warning you that if you talk to that girl you think is attractive it’s pretty likely that you’re going to experience emotional trauma. What has happened is that at some point your mind has trained itself to think that approaching girls will make you feel bad so your brain plays back that emotion in advance so you know to avoid them in the future. This is bad for obvious reasons. Really, really… really bad, because it’s a little tough to have the confidence to talk to a girl if you’re so nervous you’re ready to puke! Or even just nervous enough that you don’t end up talking to her. So what is a fledgling PUA to do? Luckily there’s a nifty little way to reprogram your brain to feel good about approaching women called “tapping”.
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October 18th, 2010
Wayne "Juggler" Elise
One of my favorite pickup artists is Wayne “Juggler” Elise because of his no bullshit attitude towards picking up women that focuses on having simple positive interactions with women instead of gimmicky parlor tricks. While I admit the gimmicky parlor tricks can work and are perfect for some people and certain personalities, Wayne’s approach to pickup always called to me as a more mature and refined form of the art.
On his website (www.charismaarts.com) he has a great post entitled “Girl Talk”, where he discusses an ingenious idea for keeping women interested in conversation instead of making them yawn and sending them running for refuge in their Pilates class.
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October 14th, 2010
Welcome to the new Date Flank blog! The purpose of this blog will be to educate men (and maybe some women?) in an entertaining way about how to succeed with women. We’ve got a lot of great things in store and are hoping to turn this page into a never-ending fountain of dating knowledge and helpful pointers. Here’s what you can look forward to:
- Articles on all aspects of meeting, attracting, and seducing women.
- News of scientific studies, inventions, toys, books and more related to the art of seduction.
- Quick tips: Short, to the point, well… tips that will help you in all aspects of your game from what to wear to follow-up game.
- Polls and quizzes to test your knowledge and share your opinions with others.
- Book reviews on the plethora of dating books out there.
- Contests! We’ll be running a few to get you guys out into the field and testing your skills in return for prizes, bragging rights, and heck, money!
- Mailbag: You send us questions and we answer them! It’s like having your own personal FREE dating coach!
So check back often for updates and click here to bookmark this site now!!
